I’ve had the honor of working with several clients who had childhoods similar to mine.
Ones in which they were “parentified” (i.e. made to assume the role of a parent) and had to carry the responsibility of keeping the family together because their parents were argumentative and had major unresolved issues of their own.
Unfortunately, a lot of parents have grown up with the inability to appropriately handle their emotions. Some of them think that – oh, I have this little human now who wants my attention and wants to be around me 24/7, I can share my problems with them – which is NOT okay. The parent’s duty is to protect the child and understand their emotions, not the other way around.
Ultimately, this type of parentified dynamic is unfair to the child because it spurs them to grow up and become an adult sooner than they deserve to.
Their childhood is filled with anxiety, worry, guilt, over the family breaking apart.
Kids don’t understand logic. They only go off emotion. Thus, they develop learned helplessness where they feel responsible for their parents’ unhappiness yet they can’t seem to do much to fix it.
Once they become adults, they have a hard time with relationships because the primary relationship model they had growing up of their parents’ marriage was problematic.
The inner children of these adults long to feel safe and at peace. They long to feel like they matter and can be put first for once.
This is the type of root cause work, healing, and integration we do in Rapid Transformation Therapy® (RTT® for short).
Clients leave an RTT® session having a better understanding of the pattern that has kept them stuck in relationships and learn to have a lot more compassion for themselves and their inner child.
They create a lifelong relationship with their inner child and vow to give it the stability and peace that it has always longed for.
They are able to move forward in their life and in relationships, feeling much more healed and integrated than ever before.
Their process of healing also allows them to see the hurting inner children of other people (including their parents) with their own unmet needs, and through this, they are able to extend compassion and forgiveness all around.
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