Teresa came in frustrated at why she could not attract a man who met her high standards. She wanted to be respected for the incredibly ambitious woman she was, yet still be poured into and cared for by a confident, masculine partner.

She was independent, high-achieving, and successful, and she did not want to settle for a man who did not match her values or standards.

In doing the deep inner healing work in RTT®, we discovered that there was a part of her that had decided from an early age that she would never depend on a man, because she did not want to feel disrespected or deprived, like her mother often felt in relationship to her father.

So she became extremely independent, and to some degree this was a self-protective mechanism that kept her from feeling less than a man.

This imprint was adopted early on in childhood as her father figure (the most important masculine role model in any child’s life) was unaffectionate and distant. Thus, her subconscious never had a healthy template of what it feels like to be cared for by a loving man. So, she unconsciously chose to assume masculine energy and role of provider for herself.

And this served her well as it got her to accomplish everything she wanted.

The challenge now was that she could not let herself be vulnerable enough with a man to be in her feminine energy, so he could step into his masculine energy with her.

Through the session, she understood this limiting pattern and was able to reframe it into deep acceptance and unconditional love for herself, realizing that her worth did not come from her achievements or her self-sufficiency but rather from her energy, and simply being who she is.

Consequently, she realized that she deserved a man who accepted and loved her for her, including her soft, vulnerable, feminine aspects.

She realized that there didn’t have to be a power struggle like there was between her mom and dad.

She could simultaneously honor her independence and her inner femininity, and allow a man to see both sides of her and deeply respect and love all of her. 

A month later, Teresa is radiating confident, feminine energy that speaks of a woman who values and loves herself immensely. Her confidence that her ideal man is out there has skyrocketed, and her discernment regarding the qualities she values in an ideal partner has sharpened.